Some of the enneagram literature emphasizes 'defectiveness' and 'brokenness' for fours. Yet most people I've ever been close to have confessed some feeling that they were 'not good enough.'
To me, it's clear that these feelings tie into type - but there must be a feeling of defectiveness in every type. I know a 7w8 and an 8w7 and I have seen both of them talk about ways in which they felt defective. The 8, for example has posted versions of this complaint publicly: "My energy is too big, no one can keep up, and that's why I get dumped."
So that leads to my question. In what ways do you feel defective, broken, not good enough? Where do you struggle to love yourself, and how does it tie into your type?
To me, it's clear that these feelings tie into type - but there must be a feeling of defectiveness in every type. I know a 7w8 and an 8w7 and I have seen both of them talk about ways in which they felt defective. The 8, for example has posted versions of this complaint publicly: "My energy is too big, no one can keep up, and that's why I get dumped."
So that leads to my question. In what ways do you feel defective, broken, not good enough? Where do you struggle to love yourself, and how does it tie into your type?
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